BDSM has become one of the most popular sexual practices in bedrooms all over the world, thanks mainly to Fifty Shades of Grey and its sequels. If you are not well versed in BDSM yet, well, you need to investigate it, and we can guarantee your sex life will never be the same ever. If you are still new to this culture, let’s just give you a preview of what BDSM is.
What Is BDSM?
BDSM is a practice that includes four main aspects, which are bondage, dominance, and submission. These are the ones that make up the acronym BDSM. BDSM involves many things, but all of these can easily be categorized under those four aspects. One important thing is to understand that BDSM does not necessarily limit to 2 parties only and might not even include sex.
The basic idea behind BDSM is finding a balance between pain and pleasure, and just as a spoiler, the experience is breathtaking. The effect of pain and pleasure might not seem close to each other at all, but if you dig a little deeper, you will be surprised. The main reason that makes the whole experience enticing is that there is no limit to the methods or techniques you can use. Do not worry about it! We will be discussing it a little later on.
Why do Some People Like BDSM?
There are dozens of reasons why people have a keen interest in BDSM. One of the reasons is pretty obvious Fifty Shades of Grey. There are more causes why people are falling in love with BDSM and even more reasons for you to love it too.
Fifty Shades of Grey
Well, it is one of the main reasons why people love BDSM. Fifty Shades of Grey is one of the few literature pieces that are BDSM-centric. As it was getting more and more popular, the spotlight got pretty much set on BDSM, and, well, things have gone crazy from thereon.
The release of the Fifty Shades of Grey movies was a prominent event to BDSM fans. Now, people could easily watch and get an idea of what BDSM means and what is involved. It makes people fall in love with BDSM, and so does the movie industry.
One thing you have to know, though, is that Fifty Shades of Grey is considered to be cringy in the BDSM community. The way it showed abusive relationships made it steer away from what BDSM is actually about. If you ever go to a BDSM dungeon or a meetup, you should try not to mention the movie or the books.
Helps to Release Cortisol
The human body has dozens of hormones, and most of them control stress levels. One of those hormones is Cortisol, which is essential in regulating stress. There are lots of things going on in life, and, well, one thing that should relieve you is sex. It is exciting, but, over time, things might get a little flat, and BDSM tends to jumpstart the whole experience. That is exactly why people love it.
BDSM promotes the release of this hormone, Cortisol. Cortisol will go a long way in reducing your stress levels, and that is one thing that you would want, especially now. With mental health being a topical issue, you need to do all you can to deal with stress. Everyone wants to be happy, and that is another reason to love BDSM. For men, it also helps to regulate testosterone levels, which is also a bonus.
It’s Not Always about Penetrative Sex
As much as we would like to ignore it, not everyone enjoys penetrative sex. It does not mean that people do not want to feel that sexual rush – they have to find a way to get it. That is where BDSM comes in handy. BDSM does not always involve traditional sex, but it can be equally as pleasurable without penetration. It is one of the reasons why some people tend to have lots of affection towards BDSM. That said, we have to understand that those who prefer not to have sex can find a safe space in BDSM.
The body has dozens of erogenous zones, and all these can give you pleasure. It means that you do not just have to focus on your genitalia to get pleasure. The nipples, inner thighs, and even the scalp are areas that can provide pleasure, and, well, BDSM understands that. There are dozens of scenes in BDSM that can be used to get pleasure without penetrative sex, and the best part is if you can’t find the perfect scene, you can create yours.
With the ability to substitute penetration and everything else said, we can easily understand why people prefer to love and engage in BDSM. It gives you a chance to enjoy body pleasures without necessarily having sex. If you are a little skeptical about having sex with a partner (for different personal reasons), you can still have that sexual spice to switch the physical aspect of sex.
Emphasis on Sex Toys
Sex toys have become an integral part of sex, and there is nothing that puts them in the right place as BDSM does. Sex toys are there to enhance that sexual experience that is the same thing that BDSM does. This culture has thousands of scenes that already exist, and you can create yours to aid the experience.
The best part is the types of sex toys available for use in BDSM are variable, and you can easily integrate them into any scene. Some of the best BDSM sex toys do not even cost that much. It means that even though the sex might break your back, the prices of these sex toys won’t have to. It makes it a very lovable sex practice.
Sex toys might be a real good reason to love BDSM, but some precautions need to be taken to make sure that toys do not ruin your sex experience. If you are still a beginner, it is essential to start with some basic sex toys. Try nipple clamps and, maybe, handcuffs and work your way up to the extreme stuff.
You Can Always Say No
One thing that BDSM emphasizes is safety. It might not look that way, but safety is one of the most essential aspects of BDSM. Most scenes require you to sign a contract first (if you are to practice it with strangers). It is clear and sets limits on how the experience has to get to. It means that for BDSM to take place, there has to be consent (oral or written). It is one of the main reasons why there are not many sexual abuse cases during BDSM sessions.
Another thing that makes the entire experience secure and pleasant is the use of safewords. Before a BDSM session or scene, a safe word has to be agreed on. Safewords are simple and easy-to-remember words that you can say when you no longer want to proceed. Make sure that at the end of the day, no one feels violated or wrongly done. It is essential to understand that if you are engaged in a BDSM scene, and your partner says the safe word, you have to stop.
Multiple Partners
Some people out there do not fancy the idea of having a sexual experience with a single partner. Well, BDSM gives you that freedom to live to your polygamous sexual fantasies. There are dozens of scenes that require you to be with more than one person. For those people that love to experience multiple partners in their sexual endeavors, they get every reason to love BDSM.
If this is the reason why you would love to engage in BDSM, you need to take some precautions. BDSM scenes with multiple partners tend to increase your risk of being exposed to STIs. That’s why if there is going to be sex (penetrative, oral, or anal), you need to make sure that it is safe.
These are some of the many reasons why people love BDSM. We can guarantee you that you will like this spicy experience, and you can take our word for it. Get some information from as many sources as possible, and, well, get the BDSM ride going.
