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What Is Fisting and How to Do It Right

Fisting is one of the most extreme fetishes out there, and you might be surprised at how popular the act is. Fisting can be one of the best sex experiences you have ever had. On the other hand, if you go off the rail, chances are you will hate it forever. We are going to be teaching you how to do it right and how to enjoy it like you never imagined. If you love fetishes, and fisting is something that has run over your head, read further.

What Is Fisting?

If you are not really into sex fetishes, chances are you might not have an idea what fisting is. If you have heard about it, there are dozens of things you might not know that we are going to be discussing in this article. The very essence of sexual pleasure is strongly tied to fisting, and it is difficult to separate sexual pleasure and fisting.

In simple terms, fisting is an act that involves the insertion of a hand into a vagina or rectum. It can be your hand or your partner’s. The act is referred to by some names. We are certain you have heard some of these names being thrown around and, in some instances, quite wrongly. Fisting, handballing, brachioproctic insertion, or brachiovaginal, all mean the same thing, which is quite sexually satisfying.

Why Do People Practice Fisting?

Well, the main reason why fisting is a thing, a quite popular thing, to be precise, is that in terms of sexual pleasure, there are very few sexual acts that come close. Fisting is a sexual act that has in the past been described as the borderline orgasm act. Another reason why fisting is getting quite popular is that there is a feeling of fullness that comes with fisting. If you want to feel full in the literal and metaphorical sense, then it is possibly the only option out there for you.

Fisting also provides people not just with high-end pleasure but also a sense of security in terms of sexual health. If done right, there is very little chance that people will contract sexually transmitted illnesses to one another. Imagine a sex act so intense that orgasm is guaranteed, plus it comes with a very little risk of infection. Well, you do not have to imagine because that is exactly what fisting brings to the table.

Fisting. How to Do It Right

Fisting is not complex, but it requires a lot of information to do it right. Fisting might seem simple: just place your hand in the rectum or vagina. Well, we hate to break it to you: it’s more complex than that. There is a need to understand that there is quite a huge gap between vaginal fisting and anal fisting. We are going to be looking at both of these separately.

What is Vaginal Fisting?

Well, it is the holy grail of sexual pleasure. Vaginal fisting is probably the most popular form of fisting out there, and if you are looking to get it right, these are some of the important tips you have to follow.

How to Do Fisting

How to Prepare for Fisting

The most important part of fisting (although not exciting) is the preparation part. Let us take a look at all the elements that count during the preparation.

The first thing we need to make very clear. If you are thinking about fisting, you need to take your time and prepare for a bit. The vagina is elastic, yes, but you have to be a bit accustomed to the feeling of fullness. Try to start with dildos and graduate from size to size until you can handle a large dildo. Once you are at this point, get to the fingers: one after the other until you can get all five in. That is the perfect answer to the question of how to start fisting.

Getting the Supplies

Many items need to be in place first before you get on with your fisting adventure. The most essential thing certainly has to be a lubricant. Although the vagina is elastic, getting a whole hand in there might be a huge toll on the elasticity. That is why it is important to get lubed up before undertaking the activity. There are several types of lube out there, but for vaginal fisting, we recommend oil-based lube. Water-based lube is most likely going to evaporate faster, and you might end up having to continuously reapply the lube. We know you won’t like that – it will disturb the rhythm of the act and make it a whole bore.

There is also a need to get a couple of sex toys to factor into play. It will make the experience more diverse.

Cleaning

One more important thing about fisting is cleaning. There is a need to make sure that sexual hygiene standards are upheld to the utmost level. Remember, your vagina is quite sensitive and harbors many foreign microbes. The last thing you would want is to get an infection from such an exciting sex act. Get your hands cleaned up with detergent (make sure that it will not end up causing your vagina to react). There is also a need to get your vagina carefully cleaned up before the act.

Actual Fisting

Once you have taken a few trips down the vagina train, the next step is to get to the actual fisting in play.

Lubricate

You need to lubricate both your hands and vagina. We have already established that for this act, the best lubricant for fisting is a silicone-based lubricant. Once you are fully lubricated, the next step is getting to the real act, fisting.

Easy Does It

Fisting is not a sport for the faint-hearted: you need to be extremely careful. There is no need to rush it because it will make the whole process a bit uneasy and, well, quite painful. There’s the need to get stimulated as you go by. Try to get some porn and add a lot of kissing and caressing. That way, we can guarantee an orgasm and a seamless experience.

Clean Up

Once the orgasms come (multiple orgasms, of course), the final step is to clean up. Remember, the inside of your vagina is a bit different from the outside. There are many microbes that you need to disinfect from your hand. Make sure that as soon as the fisting exercise is over, get your partner, or if you were doing it solo, wash your hands.

What is Anal Fisting?

Anal fisting is generally the insertion of the hand inside the anal cavity for sexual pleasure. Well, although some people are referring to it as gay fisting, you might be glad to know that it is quite common among heterosexuals. There is no need to refer to it as gay fisting. Although the process is nearly the same in both types of fisting, there is a need to take extra care when it comes to anal fisting. It is because the anal cavity is not as elastic as the vagina. There is a greater risk of bruising and cutting during this type of fisting. We have discussed the sensitivity of the anal cavity; we need to make sure that you have stretched it a bit.

How to Stretch for Fisting

For anal fisting, you need to exercise and stretch a bit more. The best way to get your stretch on is using sex toys. Starting with hands might be uncomfortable, so, first, try with sex toys. Our sex toy of choice for the stretch practice has to be the butt plug. Grow from one butt plug size to the next until you can comfortably fit your fingers. Once you are at this stage, then mission anal fisting is a go.

How to Do Anal/Gay Fisting

For all forms of fisting, lube is essential. But for anal fisting, it is very important. Unlike the vagina, the rectum is not self-lubricating. It means you need the best anal lube you can get. Make sure that you get your lubricant from a trusted supplier. You do not want to end up dealing with medical problems as a result of using knock-off lubricants.

Once the lube is in place, you need to make those things go slowly. Make sure that once the hand is fully inside the rectum, you do not overstretch your fingers. It could end up hurting your partner or yourself. You need to make sure that you constantly communicate during the act.

There is no shame in failing the first time or second time, especially when it comes to anal fisting. It might hurt as you start, but once you get the hang of it, trust us, it will be very fulfilling.

Post Fisting Care

Once fisting is done, the next thing is to clean up. Make sure that hands and anus are cleaned up. It is very important.

Now that we have all the fisting tips out there, the next thing is to put them into execution. Enjoy fisting!

April Sattler

Author: April Sattler

April has always been interested in two things: psychology and sex. So she decided to combine her two passions and now April provides help and advice to those seeking to improve their relationships and sexual life.

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