When it comes to sex, oral sex tends to speak louder than the rest. If you have ever had oral sex, then you can generally testify to this. If you cannot agree, it is because you haven’t had a blowjob yet, or you did not get it done right. If your problem is the latter, then you’re just in the right place. Join us as we dive into the specifics of a proper blowjob!
We understand that there is a misconception that a blowjob is entirely for the receiver. It is wrong. If done right, the person giving the blowjob can equally enjoy the experience. We are going to show you just how. There are a lot of things that should be put into consideration to make sure that the blowjob experience is a vibe for both you and your partner. Here are some of the facts that you need to consider.
Blowjob Prerequisites
If you are giving a blowjob, there are certain things that you need to get right to make sure that your partner enjoys the experience and that you enjoy it as well. The following are part of how to give a good blowjob.
Keep it Clean
If you are planning to give someone a blowjob, you already know that your mouth is going to be clean, and the breath should be fresh. It means that your most important tool has to be well prepared for the task, and you have to make sure that your mouth is as clean as it can be. Oral hygiene is the most essential step in ensuring that a blowjob is great.
The first thing you need to do is to brush your teeth. It is not a good idea, though, to brush your teeth just before you get into the oral action. If you are one of those people who love to feel the whole experience unchecked, the toothpaste might result in a discounted experience.
Alternatively, for better results, you can also use mouthwash and a bit of flossing. It will make sure that your mouth is extra clean. Nothing is as embarrassing as your partner pulling their dick out of your mouth with bits of last night’s salad. That will make the whole thing uncomfortable. A blowjob after a meal with some hot chili will ruin the entire oral sex escapade. Keep it clean!
Be flexible
One thing that makes a blowjob stand out from conventional sex is that there are dozens of positions and skills that you can perform to make sure that the experience is great. There is no need to be rigid: even if you are not accustomed to the entire thing, there is always an incentive in being adventurous. That way, we can safely guarantee that your blowjob experience will be out of this world.
101 Blowjob Guide – How to Give Perfect Blowjob
Now that these two important aspects are out of the way, we can get to the step-by-step guide of how to perfectly execute a blowjob. One thing that you have to note is that a blowjob is not something rigid and technical. This guide is there to help you get through, but there is no harm in being inventive and spicing the whole thing up. Enjoy!
Step 1 – Talk about Blowjob
The first thing you need to do if you have never gone down the oral path in a relationship is to discuss it with your partner. We know surprise blowjobs are cool if there is consent. If you still want to keep it a surprise, you can try to keep the discussion a little hinting so that they do not easily find out that you might be planning an oral surprise.
Most people have no problems with blowjobs, but some tend not to enjoy the whole experience. If your partner is one of those people, discussing it beforehand might give you a chance to convince them otherwise. Try to highlight to them that going down the oral sex path is essential to you. If they still have a couple of misconceptions, try to correctly spell them out.
Consent is very important. If your partner says they are not comfortable with the experience, please, do not force them to go through it.
Step 2 – Warm-up
You have to understand that you do not just start with the sucking and spitting. There needs to be some foreplay to make sure that both you and your partner are aroused. Without it, you might have to deal with erectile dysfunction and some worse problems along the way.
The perfect pathway to arousal involves a lot of making out. Men love kissing. Well, most of them do. And you need to make sure that you turn the kissing notch as high as possible. If you are planning to get the blowjob session in the bed, you can drive the kissing train straight from the hallway up to the bedroom. Sucking on your man’s nipples is also a must-do. Men like women who take charge in bed, and there is no better way to show that you are a boss than a passionate start from the get-go.
Undressing your partner is a masterclass in preoral sex arousal. No one needs to undress if they are due to receive an explosive blowjob, no one. Take your time as you remove your man’s clothes: slow seduction is a well-proven killer.
If you are not planning to go stark naked during the session, then your lingerie needs to be up there to justify any item of clothing being worn during the session. Remember appearance is everything: if your partner is not going to be looking at your birthday suit, then the sex wear has to be that good.
We recommend that if you want to get the best blowjob experience, go stark naked. But if you want to go about it, otherwise, it can also work. Once the clothes and arousal are out of the way, we can get to the actual blowjob.
Step 3 – Blowjob
The blowjob is pretty simple. There are three basic steps. These are sucking, blowing, and spitting. But certain things will make this whole sequence work some sexual magic.
Positions
One thing you have to understand is that blowjobs, just like penetrative sex, works differently with various positions. That’s why it is essential to understand positions that both you and your partner will like. You do not want to end up getting crampy knees before the climax. Here are some of the best oral sex positions you need to try.
The Mouth Off
It is one position that gives your man the feeling that they are definitely in charge. It also gives you enough freedom to work on his balls. Your partner stands, and you lie on a raised platform, with your head directly under his penis and balls. Gently slide the penis inside your mouth. This position allows your partner to effectively penetrate your mouth. The position is also great because it allows your partner to work on your vagina and clitoris with their hands. It means that you get to arouse him, and he can effectively do the same. You should use flavored oral sex lubes for this position.
69
It is probably one of the most popular blowjob positions out there. The 69 gives you and your partner the best of both worlds in terms of oral sexual pleasure. Your partner lies on their back, and you lie on top of them with your genitals in their face and theirs in yours. The position is perfect, and the fact that it is not physically straining on both you and your partner is a bonus. Suck on him while he licks on you. Be sure to bring your hands into play – you will need them.
Use Sex Toys
We cannot stress this enough: sex toys are vital in ensuring that any experience is not just good but great. Sex toys play a very essential role, especially during oral sex. Remember that sex toys enable you to also arouse parts of your body that are not directly in the oral action. Here are awesome sex toy options that will turn your oral sex experience a notch higher.
Blowjob Masturbator
We know you will be doing most of the blowing, but a blowjob masturbator can help make the experience a lot more appealing to both you and your partner. A blowjob is breathtaking, but it is not light work. If you are doing it right, your jaws will give in, and you will need a break. It is where the blowjob masturbator comes in. You can easily use this vibrating toy that is made of silicone or rubber to continue when you leave off. The fact that it is available in different sizes makes it more exciting.
Bullet Vibrators
Remember blowjob should never be about one person: both you and your partner need to enjoy it. The bullet vibrator can be either in your vagina or, if you are a fan of anal sensation, you know what to do. The good thing about a bullet vibrator is that you do not need to be actively controlling it during pleasant moments. It means you can use your mouth and both hands to please your partner and still get the best pleasure from your vibrator.
Nipple Clamps
It is probably the most effective yet cost-efficient sex toy that you can add to your blowjob itinerary. The nipples are the most sensitive parts of the male body, and stimulating them simultaneously with your man’s penis will get him straight to euphoria. Just clamp his nipples and get on with the sucking.
Execution
Now that we have got everything else out of the way, we can talk about how to execute the blowjob. With all the positions and sex toys in place, here is what you need to do.
Focus on Head
The shaft is also sensitive, but focusing on the more sensitive head will give your partner a lot more pleasure. Make sure that you use your tongue to give your partner some circular movements on the penis head. They will love this.
No Teeth, Please!
One thing that should not get in the way when you are giving a blowjob is your teeth. The penis is extremely vulnerable, and your teeth might end up hurting your partner. Try to keep them out of the way at all costs.
Eye Contact
Eye contact is essential. Look into your partner’s eyes as you pleasure them. Looking down will drive out the passion that the blowjob experience is supposed to bring. Another thing is speaking. We know most of the time, your mouth will be full, but take a breather and tell your partner you are enjoying doing it, call them “daddy” while doing it.
Ball Play
It is where the whole gameplay is. The balls are the key to making your man orgasm through a blowjob. Make sure that you play with them as much as you can as you give the blowjob. It is important to note that the balls are sensitive. Try to keep the contact as gentle as possible.
As we wind up, it’s pretty safe to conclude that blowjobs can indeed be the best oral experience there is, which I bet you’ll agree after trying all this out! Just remember, oral sex comes with a couple of STI risks, so play it safe when exploring with a new partner and get tested with your committed one before you indulge to avoid those nasty bugs – happy blowing!
