It has probably been a long-cherished dream of the two of you – to see those little feet running around the house and hear him or her babble “mama” and “dada”. Yet something has still gone wrong. You have had unprotected sex but couldn’t make a baby, haven’t you?
Don’t worry, you are not alone. Do you know that 10% of women in the US can’t get pregnant? Or that 12-13 couples out of 100 are struggling to have a baby?
The stats are disturbing. However, the research has also shown that 90 out of 100 couples manage to get pregnant within a year of trying. Getting pregnant is not as simple as you thought it was, huh?
There are many essential pregnancy factors that you’ve probably missed. First off, the fertility phase. Secondly, the frequency of sexual intercourses. And last but not least, the right sex positions.
Let’s get the complete pregnancy know-how
What time of the month is the best to get pregnant?
Ovulation is a must-have ingredient of a successful pregnancy. A human repro-duction system is a complex mechanism. A woman can get pregnant at a specific time within the menstrual cycle, i.e., in the middle of it.
An average menstrual cycle lasts for 28 days. Your eggs are mature. But remember an egg lives from 12 up to 24 hours. So the sperm must get inside before your egg dies.
It is advisable to have sex 5-6 days before ovulation. A woman’s body stores the sperm for 5 days. It would be a pleasant surprise for your uterus to get acquaint-ed with little white swimmers.
With the help of a calendar or a period-tracking app, you can be updated on your fertility 24/7. However, if you still can’t get pregnant, your ovulation may be a little bit erratic. In this case, take an ovulation test or go to a doctor.
Is it true that you must have sex more often during ovulation?
Some people believe that too much sex deteriorates the sperm quality. On the contrary, doctors and researchers recommend couples to have sex every 1-2 days.
If sex occurs with an interval of 2 days, the sperm doesn’t lose in density. Only if a man abstains from sex for more than 10 days, the spermatozoids become less active. The volume is also smaller.
So if you haven’t had sex for about two weeks, one session is not enough. For a pleasant result, start having sex once in 2 days a week before ovulation. This way, your results should be better.
The time of the day also affects the probability of conception. Daytime is considered the best to have sex for pregnancy since the spermatozoids are more active. They easily get to the uterus.
Do you need to get rid of lubes?
No, you don’t have to do so. You’re mistaken to think that lubes kill your chances to get pregnant. The studies have shown that women who use lubricants have the same fecundability as women who rarely or never use lube.
The best lubes are always natural ones. They are safe and don’t irritate your skin. Natural components will not do your partner wrong, even if he/she swallows the lube. However, if you’re allergic to lubricants, warn your partner and look for an alternative.
For example, before sexual intercourse, always have from 10 to 30 minutes of foreplay to completely relax and get aroused. Your erogenous zones such as clitoris, breasts, and nipples must get a little swollen and red. This way, you may help your body produce the lube.
Cunnilingus also makes your chances to get pregnant higher. Humans, as well as some animal species, perform oral sex for pleasure and mating. Human males have bigger ejaculate volume after they perform cunnilingus.
Some of the Best Sex Positions to Get Pregnant
Okay, now that we’re done with the dull theory part, let’s have some fun. Spoiler alert: any sex position works if you meet the recommendations described above. However, if you want to take the bull by the horns and get the job done, deep-penetrating positions will help.
Rear entry positions
This sex pose presupposes that a man goes from the woman’s back. A girl must be standing on her knees. The basic variation of this position is when a woman is under the man, and her body is bent over the bed at 30º – 45º angle.
The penetration is deep. However, it depends on the size of both female and male genitals. A man ejaculates right near the uterus. The sperm seems to shoot up into an egg. If a woman lacks lube, cunnilingus can help.
This is a perfect way to both get a baby and have fun. The relaxing atmosphere makes a child-making process even more enjoyable. Besides, this position isn’t difficult since no one has to jump or move other body parts, except for a penis.
This is the most basic and simple sex pose. A woman is on her back, whereas a man is on top. Missionary is for those who want to stay classy. No matter how cliché this position is, it works. The penis penetrates the vagina to the fullest.
Spermatozoids don’t have to move too far to get to the uterus. Given that it’s daytime, they move even faster than usual. You don’t have to struggle or watch tons of porn to perform missionary. It’s as easy as possible.
Advice: if a woman raises her legs and puts them on the man’s shoulders, the penetration feels deeper. A legs-up missionary is a variation of a basic version, but it meets your pregnancy needs even better.
To perform this pose, a man must stand on his knees or feet, while a woman stands on both knees and elbows. It’s a real no-brainer for those who don’t like difficult positions.
The vagina opens up more than in other positions, thereby welcoming the penis to come in. The penis penetrates the vagina from the back. This way, the sperm gets to the uterus pretty fast.
Note that the doggy style is one of the best positions to stimulate a woman’s legendary G-spot. You’ll be surprised, but G-spot is not a myth. If she doesn’t usually experience an orgasm, she will likely have lots of pleasure and arousing sensations.
A wheelbarrow pose can be extreme or even impossible from the first sight. But you don’t have to be a gymnast or a yogi to try it. The instructions are the following:
- a man stands on his feet and holds the woman’s hips;
- the legs of a woman are spread;
- she stands on her hands to balance the body;
- he penetrates the vagina from the back while holding her pelvis.
Because the weight of a woman is not entirely on him and her, the position is easy to perform. A woman’s body is almost turned upside down, which is what we need to make the sperm go faster to the uterus.
This is probably one of the comfiest positions out there. In a nutshell, both a man and a woman are lying on their sides. The man is behind a woman so that he can penetrate her vagina.
The sperm attacks the female egg in a nick of time. Girl, beware, you’ll definitely get impregnated! To get the most pleasant effect, a woman should spread her legs. This way, a man can move faster. The narrower the legs are, the tighter the pussy hole is.
Spooning makes the two of you as close to each other as possible. He can smell her hair, whereas she can feel his strong arm on her waist. This position is pretty romantic and gentle. What could be better for family creation?
After-sex pregnancy tips and tricks
Once you’re done checking the cycle, choosing the time to have sex, and trying all of the best sex positions to get pregnant faster, you should complete the task and ensure the result. Then you should keep in mind the simple actions that will help the sperm reach the finish.
Stay steady for a few minutes
Lay down on your back and put a pillow under your hips. You can use a pillow during sex since it makes his spermatozoids move faster. Your body will rest after sex, and the male substance will surely get to your egg.
You can raise your feet and keep them up. This way, the sperm is supposed to move nowhere else than an egg. Besides, your body will rest and unwind. Even though some people believe that after-sex rituals are ineffective, we say do everything you can to achieve your goals.
Unwind and relax
No matter what the result is, both you and your partner should feel happy. Don’t make a routine out of your sex since your mental state could deteriorate. It is especially true for men. Stress directly affects sperm volume. The more often a man feels stressed out, the fewer amount of sperm his body will produce.
Have sex whenever you want. It doesn’t have to be in the daytime, choose your favorite time of the day. The more important thing is how you two feel before and after sex. If you don’t have any health issues, an excellent mood and vivacious smiles on your faces will let you have dozens of babies without effort.
Be as hot as possible
You must be wondering why the word “hot” is stressed here. It’s because men produce more and higher quality sperm once they’re sexually driven. A woman’s sex energy can do wonderful things.
Since both a man and a woman take an active part in child conceiving, they’re both responsible for the outcome of their intercourse. If a woman is tensed and grim, she will probably make many mistakes in bed that will lead to failure.
Don’t give up. That’s the best you can do!
Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development has conducted a study related to infertility in the US. According to the results, 85% of couples that seemed “childless” became parents after 12 months of trying for a baby.
In 2 years of regular unprotected sex, another 5% of the subjects became parents as well. That means that 90% of couples manage to overcome the infertility problem with no drugs in two years. Practice makes perfect.
If you’re under 30 and struggling to get pregnant for the first time, then try two times more. The same study concluded that women of this age group tested baby positive in only three months of unprotected sex.
Harvard Health says that the reason for the problem may be the long-term use or even abuse of birth control pills. Sometimes, sexually transmitted diseases, endometriosis, or reproductive tract infections could cause this. If one of the partners takes drugs or drinks alcohol, it decreases the chances as well.
Even if you two gave up all health-damaging habits, your body might take some time to recover and restore its strength. In case you’re under 30 and have been trying for a baby for more than 2 years, go to the doctor. Self-treatment might damage your health.